"You've got to figure out if there's a certain look that she likes," says Kirschner. Nothing captures a woman's heart quite like a good man who wants to be a better man, according to love guru Kirschner.
"If she likes a guy in tight jeans, you wear tight jeans." OK, this tip doesn't come from women, but from clever testing by psychologists of women's subconscious preferences. "Women love personal growth, they love a man who is thoughtful and sensitive." She likes it when her man recognizes a flaw -- a short temper, for example, or a regularly sullen mood after work -- and loves it when he makes an effort to address it.
But set aside that time." But, you might cry, isn't scheduling unromantic? Rare is the lover with a daily planner fetish, after all. "Sure there are times when things spontaneously fall together, but those are happy accidents." One good suggestion for a better love life is to take regular nights away from home.
"For couples that have been together for a while, sex can become routine," says Castleman.
Castleman and Weston are in firm agreement that couples that have been together for a while need to plan time for sex.
"Make a date for sex," says Castleman, a health journalist who previously answered questions about sexuality submitted to the Playboy advisor.
"You're worn out by the end of the day, after the job, the laundry, the kids' soccer games, and the errands.
For those who've ever pondered this question, here are 19 relationship secrets. When it comes to romance, many women do like men to take a traditional masculine role.