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" For example, "Do I give my needs and wants as much importance as the other person's in the relationship?
Parents can declare: no matter how much attraction and enjoyment there is, if how young people treat each other lacks respect for one or both of them, then what they have is not a good relationship. As I describe in my book about adolescence, "The Connected Father," parents can suggest four basic treatment questions to which their son or daughter needs to ask and answer "yes" to affirm that the significant dating relationship is good, or at least good enough.
For sure, parents need to tell their son or daughter that any kind of violence (action with intent to harm), be it verbal, emotional, physical or sexual, is not okay. First: "Do I like how I treat myself in the relationship?
Remember, in most cases, this relationship education is not addressed in the academic classes that they take in school. I believe parents have a role in helping their son or daughter know how to evaluate this experience.
Parents can begin by describing three components of a serious relationship: Attraction, Enjoyment, and Respect. Typically it is based on appearance and personality that motivates wanting to spend some time together. Typically it is based on companionship and commonality that allow them to share experience together.
To what degree is it constructed and conducted so that it works well and not badly for the young people involved?
Respect is how the relationship is conducted in a sensitive manner.
Typically it is based on keeping treatment of each other within limits that feel comfortable and safe for them both.