Seltzer recommends focusing on exploring new interests, cultivating a healthy lifestyle and renewing your image with a wardrobe update."The first step is getting back to basics and figuring out what your passions are, and also feeding your spirit and getting really solid with yourself," Seltzer says.
"It can be overwhelming, so really focus on Finding a group of single friends is the next step, says Seltzer (she adds, "If you don't have 'em, get 'em! Going out and having a good time with friends can be a great way to both boost your confidence, adapt to your new single lifestyle and meet people.
Navigating the dating scene after divorce does involve getting out of your comfort zone -- but it doesn't have to be stressful, if you're able to embrace a healthy mindset and follow a few basic dating rules.
“People expect, especially later in life, that dating is going to be the same as it was in their early 20s when they first were dating -– and it’s not at all," matchmaker and dating coach Kimberly Seltzer tells the Huffington Post.
Before you even think about going on your first date post-split, make sure to get back on track with yourself and adjust to your new single lifestyle.
"Texting, sexting, chatting, Skyping, instant messaging, dating sites...
All of that can really stress someone out and they can get overwhelmed and they may not do it correctly, which reinforces many of their fears or beliefs that dating is hard.”While you shouldn't feel overwhelming by the changing role of technology in the dating scene, it may still help to educate yourself on new developments so that you can text and date online with confidence.
These days, the stigma of online dating has all but vanished -- so don't be shy about turning to others for their wisdom when you're struggling with that "about me" section.
You never know who will catch your eye at a bar, coffee shop or play -- and if you see someone who interests you, don't be afraid to say hello (see rule #3).
The new technology of dating can be very stressful, Battista tells the Huffington Post.