Instead, she is working on her first album and is linked to one of Hollywood's hottest actors, Twilight's Taylor Lautner. I've said a lot of things: I've said I'm never going to date someone in the business, and that I'm never going to date someone outside the business. I always tried to be well-dressed and well-mannered, and I always tried to please everyone around him. Except maybe one person, who thinks he is an idiot now. But even with everyone sitting me down, telling me it was horrible, I didn't listen to them. It would never happen.17: How did he have that kind of power over you? You don't see it, you don't hear what people are saying, or what you're saying. And what I love about Taylor is that she does believe in the whole love story and Prince Charming and soul mates. We literally talk every day.17: Did she come to you for advice when she was going through her breakup with Joe Jonas? When she was going through a hard time, we would make each other playlists.She talked to Seventeen about how she got lost in love but found true happiness and strength when she came out on the other side.17: What's up with you and Taylor Lautner? [Taylor was shooting New Moon, and Selena was shooting Ramona and Beezus.] Kristen [Stewart] was staying in my hotel. I'm like smiling so big.17: So are you guys dating? But I'm 100 percent single, and I'm going to keep it that way for a while.17: Didn't you once say that you didn't want to date actors anymore? And that's when I wrote my My Space blog about people my age sometimes being hypocritical. And I'd always go to his places and his favorite restaurants or whatever. I think a girl has to go through that, because now I'm the strongest I've ever been. And I would send her some girl-empowering music, and she would send some back.Doesn't it feel like you've known Selena Gomez forever?Part of that comes from the fact that you kind of have — you probably grew up watching her on Barney & Friends, or in guest-starring roles on Hannah Montana and The Suite Life of Zack & Cody.But the actual Selena is smart beyond her years — wisdom she gained from seeing her family live paycheck to paycheck before she got her first money-making job and from watching her parents go through a painful divorce. SG: Every single problem I ever have is healable by Taylor Swift!She even learned a few advanced love lessons after dating (and getting dumped by) rock star Nick Jonas, someone she refuses to dis despite the fact that it can't be easy to see him publicly flirting with his ex (and her close friend) Miley Cyrus. If I ever I have an issue, Taylor has gone through it, because she's older than me, and she gives the most thought-out answers.
SG: I broke up with someone once, but I've been broken up with twice.17: How did that feel? I try to not really say anything, and it kind of works itself out. Eventually you sort of realize your friends are the only ones you really have — so why are we doing this? Most of them are musicians, and I think music takes them to a whole new level.SG: It was the most horrible feeling in the entire world. And I guess you have to go through that, but it's so hard. 17: You have a lot of famous friends — Demi Lovato, Taylor, Miley. For me, I'm going to try out music, but it will be more fun than anything else.He would visit her, so we were constantly running into each other in the lobby — and we ended up meeting. What I meant was that I'm going to say a lot of things now that I'm sure two years or even a year from now I'm not going to keep to. And there was a point where I kind of lost myself completely. But I got that back, and I was really happy — and my family was happy to have me back! We had "Since U Been Gone" by Kelly Clarkson, of course; we had to have that as number one. And every time we would be together, we'd sit there and jam out to it too.17: Taylor has no problems talking about her exes in public — but you seem to be really hesitant to say anything at all about your relationships. SG: I've always loved that about Taylor — I love how open she is.We would go out to lunch and dinner, but I knew he had paparazzi following him, and I had paparazzi following me. Of course, my passion for God and my family won't change, so hopefully I won't change who I am. I don't like "taking a break." Either you're with me or you're not. I felt like it was me always trying to be perfect for him.17: Perfect in what way? I didn't smile as much, I didn't laugh as much, I wasn't a goofball, I didn't get up and dance like I usually do. We had "Battle" by Colbie Caillat, "Walk Away" by Kelly Clarkson — Kelly has good breakup songs! But I think when you have something so precious with someone, the whole world doesn't need to know about it.
But the real reason you feel connected to this 17-year-old is because her everyday life pretty much looks like yours: the inseparable friendships, the guy drama, the getting yelled at by her parents for buying an expensive jacket at the mall (a 0 leather jacket from Zara that — sorry, Mom — she has yet to wear). I'm truly grateful to be hurt as many times as I have, because I'm happy!
Watching her grow up on camera has made it hard to separate "real Selena" from "TV Selena." The TV version whom you see on Wizards of Waverly Place is full of sweet enthusiasm that could work only on the Disney Channel. 17: Do you have a friend you go to for love advice?