YOU don't get into a relationship with an unbeliever. SOOO, if he says he's a Christian, but he wants to be a drug-dealing, thug rapper that curses every 5 minutes-- he aint the one. if he goes to "church" but tries to screw you every 5 minutes, HE aint the one.
Do you change in front of him or wear low-cut shirts?
You could be engaged and SO close to the wedding day-- HOW do you abstain?!?
Well, this post may be for you if any of the above applied to you.
And trust me sisters, I have BEEN there & DONE all that.
I dated as a Christian but was STILL all up in the world & I courted God's way-- where my husband and I didn't kiss until our wedding day.
YOU want to make things work but you just cannot figure out how to turn off that switch. Do you think that God doesn't look at ya'll playing around with the SAME destest?! SO stop being all sexual as you sing & dance a beyonce song to your guy.
We courted for 1 year and 8 months and kissed for the first time on 8/14/2010. SO, let's first quickly break down the difference between courting & dating. We STAYED out in groups with people and family & we were rarely alone in our almost 2 year courting process. It wasn't EASY but if it was EASY, everybody would do it.
Before we even get into that-- let's just make sure that we're ALL on the same page. You can't just "say" you're a Christian cuz you go to church. It was great for him and I to see how each other interacted with others in large groups.
why by the milk if you're getting to see EVERY part of the cow for free.. When you finally take a stand & obey GOD in your relationship-- the flesh won't have a foothold in your heart-- THEN you'll be able to pass some tests.
into your courting relationship and you find yourself having to . You WANT to live for GOD for real but you aren't convinced that you should break up with your boo. And let's clear this up-- if you cannot STOP having sex-- lasciviousness has crept into your relationship. so tell your little flesh to shut up & be determined to obey GOD. And for those of you who are smiling as you read this & thinking.. we have messed around but haven't gone the whole way"-- well, babygirl, I'm talking to YOU as well. Then, you wonder why you want to live it out & be sexual with your guy! sometimes, you want to EXPRESS it physically by kissing, rubbing, cuddling.. YOU don't want your relationships to mirror your past relationships but you can't quite figure out how to "court" or date .. You KEEP taking your past ways of thinking from the world.. but you can't hear because your vision is all clouded because you're in "love"-- So first step-- go to God-- MAKE sure that God is ok with you even staying with that person. My now husband and I didn't hang out LATE at each others house! We were never at each others home late at night PERIOD. YOU will desire whatever you put in front of you & give your attention to.. So he should keep his paws off your body that doesn't belong to either one of you until you get MARRIED. DO you know that those things plant seeds in your heart.