Yom Kippur, the Jewish holiday of repentance, had barely been over for 14 hours and I was already fighting with my husband. Over our poached kale and egg salads with a side of chickpeas I notice my firecracker friend is uncharacteristically glum.Has my Teflon-coated mind not retained a single shred of serenity? When Peter died, the only thing that kept me sane was writing about grief. I recognized that by spewing out my emotions with honesty, I was helping others which meant it was work that made me satisfied. There will be a time when you get to know each other enough that you will be able to share details about your children's lives, but for now keep the conversation about you: Your hopes, dreams, books you are reading, dream vacations, best meals, what you did on your 16th birthday..topics are limitless and so are the opportunities to get to really know one another. Saturating the first date conversation with stories of little league and honor roll won't give you or your date any intimate details about who you are.Your go-to source for the best in love and sex advice, essays and more from Huff Post -- and beyond!Here, you'll find all the latest stories, news and more surrounding dating, marriage, divorce, sex and modern relationships.My husband and I have been together for over 20 years. We met in high school and watched each other graduate high school, college, and graduate school, find (and change) careers, and become parents.
'Do you think God is punishing me for having sex with a man 20 years younger than me?
' This was the question I asked a close friend when I was about to file for bankruptcy back in 2011.
One fascinating aspect of my work as a couples/ family therapist is that it gives me an intimate view into the current cultural dynamics of couples.
For the last twenty or so years, over half the couples I see contain the "nice guy" with his frustrated wife.
I was 55-years-old, and yet my Christian upbringing still had a stranglehold on my sexuality.Recent conversations with Millennials and 30-somethings have made me feel even better about my age and lucky to have spent my Millennial dating years pre-internet, well before the current awfulness of online 'hooking-up'.