On our next date which she initiated, we went back to her house and decided to have sex.
However, as I tried to penetrate her, she was way too tight to get in.
Entering into a new relationship can be a challenge with or without a cancer diagnosis.
Dealing with the emotional and physical changes that may have come with your cancer diagnosis can add to the situation.
I am willing to work with her and see if we can work through the whole sex thing, but I suspect/am guessing she feels pressure and/or guilt, probably has had this happen before with negative results, and doesn't want to try again and have another failure. We have only known each other for 3 months after meeting ...
Many people find that dating after a diagnosis of cancer can be a much different experience than before a cancer diagnosis.
People write in to ASK MIDLIFE BACHELOR with questions.
She then indicated she had this problem before, and that it was due to meds she takes for breast cancer treatment. We finally resorted to her manually stimulating me to climax ...
An index of all Q&As is located on the ASK MIDLIFE BACHELOR INDEX page.Email your question in complete confidence to [email protected] MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I am an Asian man in my mid-40s, and am dating a mid-40s woman who is a breast cancer survivor.After we had been out a few times, things started getting pretty hot and heavy at her place, and she revealed to me that she had recovered from breast cancer and had reconstructive surgery ... I honestly didn't let it bother me since she still had breasts, they looked good enough to me, and she was attractive to me otherwise.
I went ahead and sent her flowers the next day since it was our first sexual encounter and I had really enjoyed it even though I didn't get everything I had hoped.Now I think she feels bad or guilty, and has almost immediately become distant even though we went on another date.