The only rules are that it has to be inexpensive, and it has to be something that can be done while the baby is asleep upstairs—so cheap dates like walking around the block or running out to the ice cream parlor are off the table. I would LOVE to hear them—and add them to the list! We’ll alternate being the one who chooses and plans the date—and, of course, we can choose something not on the list!You get an excited, good feeling when you do these fun things, and yourpartner is associated with it. And it can be very positive for your marriage." In other words, when you have fun with your spouse, you begin to think of him as fun. Aron, David and I decided to conduct our own dating experiment. David didn't notice I had gotten dressed up—he was busy being annoyed that, as usual, I was running late. I was chatting on about a friend's work situation (which I thought was interesting) when David finished my sentence for me, assuming he knew what I was going to say. We didn't speak again until 30 minutes later, when we arrived at dinner. After 30 minutes together in this cool space, I was cooler, too. Whether you've been married one year or thirty, these ideas for reinventing your marriage can help you out of your routine rut!Well, OK, it was really around the sternum, and he was wearing protective clothing. Fencing is about the furthest thing from what we'd normally do, but after 21 years of marriage, we were looking for ways to "bring novelty" into our relationship.Recent studies have shown that having a regular date night is not enough to get couples out of their non-romantic ruts.According to Arthur Aron, Ph D, a professor of psychology at Stony Brook University, going on interesting dates is good for a marriage. Our “entertainment” budget each month is pretty meager, and paying for a babysitter would leave us with very little left for the actual date! (If you’ve got a baby monitor, you can pretty safely head for the yard or the garage, I figure.) Remember: You can get movies from the library for free, and the internet has tons of great resources for things like game ideas you can play, videos to teach you a new skill, even karaoke at home.
But when it's really exciting, that fun gets associated with the relationship," Dr. "When you do exciting things as an individual, it has no impact on your marriage. That's exactly what many married couples face, says Dr. "After a while you don't have that much to talk about.
But when you do things together as a couple, you can't avoid thinking about your partner while it's going on. But like any couple married for a long time, we were in a routine: Go out with some friends. Just planning these dates can give you something to discuss." So, armed with the information I'd learned from Dr. He snapped back at me for being impatient, and that was the end of conversation. The place we picked was ultra-hip and the food was delicious.