You don’t want to introduce someone and one month later have to explain to your children why they don’t see "Mike" anymore. Group Setting: Have the first five meetings in a group setting.
Before you even think about introducing your children to your new boyfriend, you need to have been dating for at least six months. It takes at least six months to begin to really know a person.
You don’t want that to happen again and you certainly don’t want your children to go through that again.
A group setting allows children to feel non-threatened. Go Slowly: Remember, you might be in love, but your children need time to get used to a new situation. My son actually liked my boyfriend so much he wanted to call him dad.
It's best not to show affection during these first five meetings. I had to take him aside and say, “I am so glad you like him!
I had to be sure he would be in my life in for a long time. I had a pool party with about four adult guests, him being one of them. We did about five more group outings before he came to do things with just me and my two children.
We slowly began doing fun kids things with just the four of us.