Some were blessed with every advantage – classic good looks, money and charm – while others had to work for their success.And yet there were a few people in my social circle who could – to put it charitably – punch well outside of their apparent weight class.The problem is that they’re working on the wrong areas and a misunderstanding of just what makes somebody appealing to women. more often than not it’s not even in the top 5 of what makes a man attractive.More than looks, more than money, more than whatever nebulous definition you want to give to “value” or “status”, the most attractive aspect of a man, that x-factor that nets him attention, attraction and dates is… Over the years as I was trying to make my transition from “dateless loser” to “ladies man”, I got to know a wide variety of folks who were good with women.If the potential new mate understands these dangers and is able to help the divorced parent through these difficulties, the relationship can be one that eases the pain of the divorce for everyone.of time worrying about being more attractive to women.Qualities that will likely be important include the dating partner’s: While dating and ultimately recommitting to a new relationship can help a divorced parent regain energy and self-esteem, it may have pitfalls that can exacerbate the pain of the divorce for the children.
They weren’t “high-status males” with impressive jobs or flashy cars and fancy clothes.
They didn’t have useful contacts for the social climbers or the money for those supposedly hypergamous women looking for the next level. who still managed to date sexy, intelligent, ambitious women. Being fun, being able to help someone enjoy themselves transcended looks and status.