So for all of you considering checking your partner’s phone that haven’t yet pulled the trigger: Don’t do it.Stop trying to control the situation and start taking responsibility for what you can control: YOU.For all of you that have already checked the cell phone, and that stumbled upon some suspicious text messages or phone calls, I gently say to you wake up. Figure out what’s really going on, and if that twisting feeling won’t go away do not ignore it. I try every day to face things head on like you suggested here, & it has worked wonders in my personal life!I’m not saying to approach your partner with boxing gloves on, ready to fight. Reply Dan: It’s awesome that you’re starting to face things head on in your life. At the end of the day, your ability to do this all boils down to self-trust & self-worth.It was scary to be honest and vulnerable but it made me feel a lot more at ease about the situation and things never became a problem. Yes, it can definitely be scary opening up and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, but in the end it’s always worth it.Maybe you feel sick to your stomach every time she goes out and you don’t know where she is.
As someone that’s lived through this scenario, I’ll start out by saying that you’re missing the point. Perhaps your girlfriend suddenly added a password to her phone.
Perhaps she’s been spending time with friends more often, or is being secretive and vague when you ask her questions. Your girlfriend goes to the bathroom, your eyes laser beam over to her cell phone, and before you know it, you’re scrolling through her text messages, looking for a reason you feel a knife twisting in your gut every time she says she’s going out with friends.