They wish to set the agenda and decide what it is you will do and when you will do it.You know who they are – they have a driving need to run the show and call the shots.To keep this anxiety from overwhelming them, they try to control the people or things around them.But when you have to be in control of the people around you as well, when you literally can’t rest until you get your way … While it’s not a diagnostic category found in the DSM IV (the therapist’s bible for diagnostic purposes) an exaggerated emphasis on control is part of a cluster of behaviors that can be labeled as compulsive generally characterized by perfectionism, orderliness, workaholic tendencies, an inability to make commitments or to trust others and a fear of having their flaws exposed.Deep down, these people are terrified of being vulnerable.
These people are riddled with anxiety, fear, insecurity, and anger.They’re very critical of themselves their lover and their friends, but underneath that perfect outfit and great body is a mountain of unhappiness.Let’s look at what makes control freaks tick, what makes you want to explode, and some ways to deal with them.The need to control is almost always fueled by anxiety – though control freaks seldom recognize their fears. In relationships, they may worry about not having their needs met.
Lurking within the fabric of the conversation is the clear threat that if you do not accede to their needs and demands, they will be unhappy.
Certainly, it’s natural to want to be in control of your life.