Below, we’re going to get into Paul’s very complex thoughts about the sexual desire of the unmarried Christian.
But I want you to keep one thing in mind as you read (the main point): The sexual desire of the unmarried person is good, is holy, and is part of the shining creation of the image of God.
Among all of the other voices, some helpful and needed (and some not), I want you, when you feel shame for sexuality or sexual desire, to be able to return to 1 Corinthians 7:9 and find peace.
Some dating couples abuse 1 Corinthians 7:8 and wield it (and their wedding plans) to rush foolishly in lust instead of taking wise steps out of love for God and neighbor.
(1 Corinthians 7:7–9) An ancient command, and the scenarios which we face as singles today are arguably more difficult: “Asking unmarried singles to control their sexual impulses for longer and longer periods of time is a fairly new phenomenon in our culture.
This has been brought about by an earlier-age onset of puberty combined with later-age marriages” (Balswick & Balswick, , 107).
We need a serious look at 1 Corinthians 7:8–9, to bulldoze through our cynicism and snide glances, and to open up our sinful impulses to critique and explanation, because God has spoken here about something that has gone nuclear in the past 20 years among Christian millennials.
All while we’ve been laughing about or marginalizing the passage that’s intended to inform and encourage us.
Married Christians love telling single people why they can’t have sex. But I can say that we singles are left navigating sexual desires that are good and holy, which are nevertheless expressed and experienced by twisted and sinful hearts and minds, souls and bodies.
Singles have been given a I wish that all were as I myself am.