I can’t explain it, but it’s worth asking yourself what vibe are you putting out to the universe?
Are you displaying negative energy with a chip on your shoulder, or are you a light of positivity open to new people, new ideas, and new situations? I am going to be open to dating a different “type” than I normally do.
I don’t know what it’s going to be, but I’m going to accept the idea and take responsibility for the fact that I won’t meet any new people sitting at home. It’s not a vibe of desperation manifested in heading out to the bars every Saturday night in stilettos and fishnet stockings.
Instead, it’s more of a subtle beacon that draws people into conversations with you.
We all have an idea of what our “perfect” type is, right?
It may be a build, an education level, a profession, a personality type, but curtailing our potential dates because someone doesn’t fit our preconceived mold is just plain silly. I have seen this one prove out over and over again.
No potential dates are going to find me sitting at home waiting for the “right” person to come along and wondering why “all the good ones are taken.” This year, I am going to be more proactive and see what happens. I am going to become more involved in activities where I could meet others.
I am going to put a little more effort into my online profile. I speak with countless divorced women who would love to be in a relationship, and who have so much love to give, but they feel guilty about dating while their kids are still at home. I’ve decided I am going to wait to date until the kids head off to college.” In theory, how unselfish…but their kids are ages 5 and 7! If you reflect back on your life, don’t the great things seem to happen when you don’t feel you are ready for them? Waiting for one “event” to happen before we allow ourselves to think about the next thing tends to put us in a perpetual cycle of waiting (and those 10 pounds may not come off as quickly as you would like, which is totally OK but it shouldn’t be the excuse that holds you back from other things). It’s invisible, but there is something different about you when you are truly ready and open to meeting someone new.