I don’t think it’s fair that Chinese will adore you for speaking Mandarin even worse than a toddler in China, while Americans might regard my Chinese husband as a child for speaking English with a slight accent.
But I didn’t make the rules here — and this generally works.
Well, there is this Chinese guy in my college that I find very attractive but the only thing is that I have no classes with him and I’m not too sure on how to approach him. He’s usually alone with his Mac or with friends that he only talks for minutes and leaves.
I’ve tried my best for him to notice me but he doesn’t seem to be interested.
First he assumes you’re just like most Western women and just not interested (or even downright negative about Chinese/Asian men).
Second, English is not his native language, which adds anxiety to an already anxiety-inducing situation (talking to women) in a culture that’s not always that friendly to him (see my first point).
So I’m not surprised he wouldn’t make any move in your direction.
Now, if you really want to get his attention, just say something to him in Chinese.
He looks very shy and maybe has a little bit of trouble speaking English [he’s usually carrying a portable translator, that I’ve seen] I’ve tried and thought of a way of making small talk, but the only thing that comes to mind is asking him for help in learning Chinese, but I don’t want to offend him in any way or weird him out.
I’m a very shy person when it comes to guys that I crush on, I’ve never made a move on a guy with a different ethnicity than mine, so I’m not too sure what are the dos and don’ts in this case or if there’s any.
I would start with something more casual like “” (I like you).Of course, you might not understand what he’s saying back to you (in the event you just started learning, perhaps to impress him).