What if his hand, or worse, brushes off both my eyebrows?
If my wig falls off do I explain myself or feign surprise?
Before each date, there is a checklist of questions for me to consider, most of which are wig-related.
(I wear a wig in public simply because it makes everyday interactions easier and means I can avoid questions about cancer, religious extremism and what is endlessly baffling, lesbianism. Will it be cold enough to wear a hat for added security?
Alopecia affects around two per cent of the Australian population, which is close to half a million people.I've experienced alternating periods of complete baldness to having a full head of hair, but for the past three years I've had no head hair, no eyebrows and have lost most of my eyelashes. Particularly as a young woman — someone whose physical appearance is weighted above all else as her most defining and valued characteristic.I've been bald from an autoimmune condition called alopecia areata for most of my dating career.The condition causes your immune system to mistake your hair follicles for foreign bacteria, halting the normal hair growth cycle and resulting in bald patches (alopecia areata), the loss of all scalp hair (alopecia totalis), or the complete loss of all body hair (alopecia universalis).
“Way too stressful.”Besides the odd proposition, dating is getting to know someone from the ground up.
And that's the crux of the unpleasantness for me: a huge part of dating is about making yourself appear attractive enough for someone to want to spend time with you and potentially have sex with you — a task that is, in my experience, fraught with feelings of anxiety, deception and fear.