Yes being single, lonely and depressed is a good thing. American girls, on the other hand, would give you a look like you are some freak and all kind of weird vibes after that.Take it as a sign or a call to action in American speak. See what happens is many American girls are serial monogamous daters until their 30s for this reason. American girls like this are horrible to date if you ask me. This is how you are supposed to feel when you do not have your other half. I teach English one on one and I will tell you what I learned.Why is it that Americans feel the need to almost apologize when they are looking for someone?They feel the need to qualify things with statements like ‘ I am not desperate’ . Many Americans behave like if you do not have a boyfriend or girlfriend that looks like someone out of a J. If you date someone, but they are not your one and only, that is messed up.Crew catalog, others will think there is something wrong with you. Few people have this life and if you were living it would you be happy? It is better to wait until the end of time, rather than to have a temporary boyfriend or girlfriend, especially just for ‘boom-boom’. You are distracting yourself from your real purpose of finding a mate. I think it is strange if someone says ‘I do not need someone’. If you do not need someone, you one messed up person. Do not feel the need to apologize that you are single or feel ashamed. European girls are not lonely because they are honest that they want to meet someone.If you are not chewing the fat on the weekends with some group of friend at a clam bake watching the sun set, having dry wine and french cheese than you are not living. It does not allow you to feel the full pain of being single and lonely, therefore, push you to action. It just means you have the courage of your convictions to wait. For example, if you started to talk to these European beauties they would be probability be thanking you, if they were single.
When they get married they want to please their man in the bedroom, not thinking about themselves. America on the other hand as such a twisted dating dynamic. Not what has been programmed in your about career or success or keeping up with the Jones. If you can not find them in the USA, look in other countries. Let me tell you when two single people of the opposite sex meet, even for coffee, it is a date. You cannot admit you want this or you are single and lonely because if you do you are kind of a old fashion loser. For example in America, if a gal and a guy meet, the girls often say, ‘OK I will meet you, but lets not call it a date’.
It makes us desperate enough to look outside ourselves for someone to rescue and save our lives in every sense of the word. Then when they are in their 30s they want to find this last hope guy. Girls should be desperate and lonely in their 20s, We guys are. And like the Poet Rilke says Love is the work for which all other work is but preparation. To be alone feels like 100, no 1000 cold daggers stabbing you deep in your heart. This is nature tell you to go out there and find your other half. I talk to Eastern European girls who have their Ph D’s and are super successful directors of large companies. If you are single and not desperate and not looking that is totally messed up. Here is the full quote: For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been given to us, the ultimate, the final problem and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. You feel this most depressed at night or when then sun goes down, around holidays in the winter, basically most of the time. Since I teach them English I get to talk with many girl one on one about things like relationships and love as it is often brought up in conversation. Don’t you want some leggy super hot girl, and I mean real beauty like on a magazine cover, looking into your eyes with her swollen soft lips, whispering in a somewhat depressed, but soft alluring voice ”I need you, I am so lonely and I desperately need you’.