Question: Our breakup was not bitter at all, instead it was full of emotions from both of us.She said that she still cared for me but was not in love like she used to be. The second a little longer and the third was 3 hours long.If she brings up the “old” relationship (which most likely she will) just follow her lead on what she wants to talk about, but don’t introduce topics yourself because you don’t know where she’s at (yet).Think of this dinner “date” as two really good friends catching up. Make the night about being there for HER The fact that she wants to go out to dinner with you says there are still feelings there.That she felt like “something was missing.” At first I tried “no contact,” but I saw that was not going to accomplish anything! We talked and laughed about many different things including memories we shared together and things “we” did. I suggested meeting for coffee but she said that it was not a good idea that it was too soon for that.Friday this week, she surprised me with a text asking if I still wanted to go out for coffee. She immediately texted me back saying she had hoped I’d suggest dinner.They may not be enough for her to want to want to come back just yet but there is certainly something there.If she comes across as trying to get closer, let her without trying to push things to happen in your timeline.
Besides the usual advice on any first date with anyone — look your best but not overdone, arrive early, take a seat facing the entrance (if possible), compliment how she looks, and be on your best behaviour, here are a few more tips on how to make a first date with an ex not just great but effective. Go with no expectations So far things look really good but that does not necessarily mean she’s ready to get back with you.
This is definitely not the right time to bring up getting back together or define the relationship.