It's a small adjustment to a very real article that some white Aussie guy called Jonno Something-or-other wrote for Vice a couple of years back entitled 'How to Date South African Girls', which has recently resurfaced on social media.
First off, apologies if you've been mislead by the title of this post. People literally stop in their tracks, their jaw falls open and their brain suddenly seems to malfunction. Some days I can make myself ignore it, but sometimes I'm tired, and I just want to be able to hold hands with my partner without feeling people's eyes on us from all sides. Other times I think about telling people that if they're so damn interested by us, we'll let them take a picture for R20.
If you're really looking for advice on how to date black South African girls, then this is not the place for you. Contrary to what you might expect, the more youthful observers are often the worst culprits. Sometimes I want to turn around and scream "For God's sake! But worse than the staring and gawking is the perceived judgment that so often comes with it.
The blatant staring and incredulity can be boring enough to have to deal with day in, day out.
Interestingly, even most of the numerous sources that have criticized this article have failed to acknowledge this gaping hole in a conversation (of sorts) about a country where 70% of the population is black. There are a hell of a lot of South Africans - old and young, male and female, black and white and everything in-between - who also continue to be unable to consider dating anyone who isn't more or less the same colour as they are.
Never mind that every girlfriend I had before that was white.
I suppose you might blame it all on the legacies of apartheid, but it's certainly not only my South African friends that are guilty.