Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.” “If we have children, will it be important to him that they are raised by godly principles and involved in church?Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too.I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list.
I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.
I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it.
I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.
I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.