Casual relationships: This is the one where you, the American woman, think you’re dating this really nice Arab guy and it feels like it’s getting serious. He says all the right things but his actions aren’t matching. He still lives with his mom and dad and he’s almost 30. This comes from not wanting to ‘bother’ a woman with things that might upset her… He will ask (or do it without asking) to look through your phone at any given moment. He, on the other hand, will more than likely have more mobile phones than you’re even aware of. If you’re leaving the house without him you’ll be expected to notify him verbally, by text, or a phone call. Regardless of how much fun you think the two of you are having together, he’ll choose spending time with his friends at the drop of a hat. This is the one where he’s mentioned marriage, or at least hinted at it. Don’t get excited, chances are you’re not off to meet mom anytime soon. He’s going to do anything in his power to convince you that sharing a bed is perfectly natural since you’re going to be sharing your life together in the near future. Finally, all men from all cultures are completely different. Don’t write to me telling me that I’m bashing Arab men or the culture. And please, if you have more to add, feel free to email or comment. This behavior is what keeps most of us wives from asking for very much. And knowing a person will do pretty much anything in the world to make you happy prevents us from wanting to bother them with silly things.
Some of the women who write are working in Kuwait and dating a Kuwaiti. And during this time you’re expected to call him (though he’s not going to answer) and send endless text messages. Don’t ask me how, but Arab men are masters at turning things around. it’s ‘disrespectful’ and you’ll be accused of behaving like a man. If he’s not comfortable with your answers he’ll simply drive you himself.
Yeah, he may have thrown those dishdashas in the closet and traded them in for a pair of jeans, but in no way has his mind changed. Arab engagements differ from country to country so I won’t go into great detail about the exact procedures. The things above may make the Arab male seem unreasonable and make some wonder why a woman would even consider marrying one. On a positive note, when an Arab man does get married it’s almost as if he matures overnight. I love him very much but my life is in turmoil because of everything you mentioned in this post.
Some are living in their home country but having an online relationship with an Arab man living in his. If you don’t then he’s going to accuse you of talking to other men during this time. Regardless of what he does and how bad it really is, you’re eventually going to find yourself doing the apologizing.
I wish I had all the answers and could guide everyone off into a land of never ending bliss. Women in the Arab culture are highly respected and taught to respect themselves. Expressing dislike for certain outfits or style of clothing you’re wearing.
But since that’s not reality I’ve decided to compile a list in hopes of answering some questions. Spends every night away from his home, doesn’t answer his phone, and finally calls at 6am claiming he was at dewaniya all night. Get used to it, you’re always going to be less important than dewaniya. Having intimate relations with you then either disappearing for a few days… Being intimate with a man before marriage is almost unheard of. He believes you should only look good for him, at home, behind closed doors.
So what are some of the biggest cultural differences you should expect to encounter? So a woman who doesn’t abide by this rule is often seen a a woman who has no respect for herself by an Arab man’s standards.