I’m not going to try to play shrink to figure out how low your self-esteem has to get for you want to win back a psychotic, selfish, abusive commitmentphobe, but let’s say that what happened to you should have driven you far, far away from this guy.
I felt horrible because I had fallen for him and he didn’t care much about us (in fact he did state that we were incompatible and that he couldn’t imagine a future with me).
That’s why six weeks ago I started dating other guys.
What does he need to do to convince you that he’s not a good guy? You dated a man who, like many men (including good men), look for sex first and figure out the relationship stuff later.I’ve written volumes about this phenomenon and don’t think there’s much to add to that discussion.