There used to be a time in dating when communicating between seeing one another took the form of hushed phone conversations or even transatlantic letters and post cards, when plans had to be made in advance and stuck to because there was no quick or immediate way to reach the other person, when absence had the potential to really make the heart grow fonder because when someone was out of town, he was really . Is Technology Taking its Toll on our Relationships? It would be such a shame to reduce something so amazing to 160 characters.There used to be a mystery behind getting to know the other person, effort behind learning about one's history and likes and dislikes, rather than the simple click that comes with a Google search or the pervasive Facebook stalking. Besides, there is something so indelible about actually expressing romantic feelings to a partner. Does she really think an obviously posed profile photo of herself wearing a kimono looking sultry was a good idea? Has he Photoshopped himself into that picture to make it look like he has friends? So the next time you find yourself busy but wanting to let your honey know you are thinking of him in the middle of the day, perhaps refrain from that quickie text (‘I Luv U') and consider jotting down a more thoughtful and grammatically correct note by hand; place it somewhere visible for him to find at a later time. Following a flame on Twitter, checking his status update or saving that drunken text message he sent late at night that may, or may not, have been meant for you and ended with a semi-colon that you assume was meant to be a flirty wink is also probably the closest you may get to poetry. Copyright 2011 Azadeh Aalai Very interesting piece.
As one writer muses regarding the perils that technology has introduced to the already treacherous landscape of dating, he writes: "It's [Facebook stalking] a gateway to a world of uncomfortable questions. Who's that girl with her arm around him in all the pictures? So to the women out there, how many of you keep the old letters or poems written to you by former lovers?Oh yeah, that's right, if you are in the 25 or under crowd, you've grown up in a digital age when you have probably never needed to walk into a post office, let alone received a handwritten letter from a potential suitor.
Despite the ways that technology may be eroding romance today, this doesn't mean that our preferences are changing to match the modern age. For instance, the same study reported that 70 percent of women would rather receive a poem or a love letter than some form of digital communication from a significant other, with the majority of males surveyed (53 percent) concurring (Adams, 2009).