Whenever you see a friend or family member end a relationship or marriage and immediately get involved with someone new, what is your first thought? Many people don’t realize that a bond with another person changes you, in that you become linked with him or her.
Rebounding occurs when the loss of a relationship creates a sizable void in your life, and you do what most people do when they encounter a void in their personal life: FILL IT. This is true even if the relationship/marriage wasn’t working, even if you wanted it to end, even if you haven’t felt close to your partner in years.
And if you’ve suddenly lost a person you’ve been with for months or years, you crave human connection.
Once you break that link, your mind and body must readjust.
I admit I’ve rebounded after ending an important relationship… But marriage, because it creates such a significant bond, can create an even bigger void when it ends.
And while women can rebound, too, some experts agree that men are more prone to it.
The problem with this is that these men are usually not ready for something new yet, and they wind up hurting the women they rebound with.
So a question I get from women is: “How do I know he’s serious about me, rather than on the rebound?
As I discuss in , there could be many reasons for this, but one important one is that many men don’t often have people to talk to or to offer support during tough times.They typically turn to the woman in their lives for this, and when she’s gone, it’s tempting to get involved with a new woman to fill that empty space.