Letting go of such intoxicating nourishment seems unimaginable.A platonic friendship doesn't have elements of sexual chemistry or attraction. In contrast, emotional sex is much more secretive and it drains energy from your primary relationship.You become friends with the sexy co-worker and decide to carpool to work together. You're married, or engaged, or you're in a committed relationship. Emotional sex is a friendship that escalates into something that feels the same as romantic love and can manifest itself in numerous ways -- physically, romantically, emotionally, lustfully, verbally, or virtually.You become "friends" with an ex on Facebook and reminisce about the past. You spend hours thinking about them and your heart races whenever you see a text from them. You tell yourself it's ok because you're not really cheating, you're just chatting. Friendship becomes emotional sex when the feel-good brain chemicals and hormones that are released when even thinking about that person take over.Pretty soon, you find yourself glowing every time you spend time with this person. Any contact with the person becomes as potent as a drug addiction.All those tingly feelings and the fantasies that perhaps a "perfect love" can really exist isn't destiny knocking -- they're caused by "love chemicals" in your brain.These addictive love chemicals feel so good that it's difficult for you to even imagine ending contact with your friend.
You may love your friend, but you don't fantasize or daydream about him or her. If you're having intimate talks and sharing things you should only be sharing with your primary partner, or you're sending late night 'just thinking of you' flirty texts, you're not having just an innocent friendship.If you find yourself having sexual or romantic fantasies about your friend, you've crossed the line into emotional sex.