I went for it, obviously, but she was playing a very guarded hand.
I know she’s massively into me but something is holding her back. We aren’t far enough along for her to come visit me in London (plus there’s massive friction because of her age and parents), and I’m not going out there to see a girl I haven’t kissed.
We’ll have to sign in as Mr & Mrs Black, to protect appearances and your honour but not spies or perhaps we are😉 Her: like a movie Me: Yes, Mrs Black we’ll take our own suitcases to our rooms, because they are heavy with all our spy stuff and guns I’ll be all hot and sweaty so I’ll immediately jump in the shower Her: me first Me: as you unpack the clothes you’ll hear me singing you know my shower song?Her: be a gentleman you told me Me: so I’ll walk around the room in my towel, like James Bond, while you undress and get in the shower you’ll enjoy the cold water on your skin, washing off all the travel very refreshing cooling you down so when you put on your evening dress, it feels soft and cold show me what you’ll wear. Her: i take wine Me: ok so we take our drinks into the darkest corner we can find Her: yes Me: some soft red velvet seats, the material worn thin by use over thirty years the bar is busy, lots of chatting and shouting, everyone having fun it’s all in Italian they don’t notice us, too busy with each other we don’t care, we came here to be alone so we sit and drink, not talking much now, just enjoying sitting with each other I like looking at you, with your hair and makeup done nice, and an elegant evening dress you like absorbing my male energy, leaning against me soon you feel so relaxed your head is resting on my shoulder as my arm is around you we look around us, at the posters on the walls, the local people – fishermen, builders, waiters, wine makers, tailors…For the first 2/3 of this the video was on too so I could calibrate to her actions as she lay in bed.It was interesting to see her eyes widen, cheeks flush, and body language become more sensual as the chat progressed.
I do like this girl so I’m not going to blow it off with a “she wouldn’t kiss, what a time waster” type ego trip.I decided to work a smooth and long escalation by putting alot of time into the atmosphere, pacing and leading her emotions so every little step forwards seems natural,not asking for much input from her.