Or you would prefer that your introvert stay home rather than agreeing to go out and then look pained. Introverts can be overwhelmed by what feels like extroverts' emotion dumps, and they often need a little time to process before they can get into sensitive discussions. But I believe that if an introvert asks for more time to think something through, it becomes their job to reintroduce the topic when they are ready.Maybe you need to know how often you can invite people to the house each week or month without annoying your partner (but "never” is not an acceptable answer). It’s not fair to force you to raise issues in the first place, and bring them up again, making you feel pushy and naggy.Another woman said that her husband refused to socialize with her, and while she didn’t mind socializing without him, she didn’t like doing it all the time, and found herself staying home more than she preferred.And I’ve heard from multiple guys trying to woo introverted women, and wondering how much chasing was necessary, or intrusive.It’s people who have walked in shame realizing that they don’t have to be ashamed anymore. Eventually, the venting will be over, and the differences between introverts and extroverts will be understood and accepted. Respect an introvert’s rights, but do not give up yours.
We have to find a compromise." And compromise is a two-way street. Maybe your partner actually enjoys big parties, as long as you’re not always trying to cajole him out of his quiet corner.
And maybe she's really fine with whatever you want to do, as long as play social director. Maybe you’re fine with going out by yourself, but dislike the chill you feel in the air when you get home.