Ilaria Perrone, sex columnist for Grazia.it, the go-to magazine for the "It" girls of Milan, has given up on dating. But if you want to see him again, you have to wait. I know in New York you do the other things first, then sex after, but here we think blow jobs are more private than sex.“Italian men are romantic but they are also liars,” she told New York sex columnist Maureen O’Connor in the latest entry in Italy in 30 Days’ Exchange Rates conversation series. " And don't even get her started on the shortage of cunnilingus slang. It can be very difficult, because in Italy men date because they want to have sex. If you go with a boy in Milan, you know 90 percent of the time, you will be with him that night. I used to talk with friends who lived in USA, and they tell me, “We go on real dates. You can have sex with a condom on a first date, but oral sex is more complicated. When you live with your parents, when you live with the Pope and the church, it’s difficult to change your mind so quickly. In this country, men can do whatever they want because they are men, they are like this, they need sex, they need affairs. K., girls use Tinder, so here in Milan they get dates with Italian men that way. In Italy it is totally different, we have sex first.I think we are now changing ages, but men have had the most change. I think perhaps this is like New York, a lot of women searching for the right man, and a lot of men running around. I was in Sicily this summer, and two guys told me they use Tinder to meet Americans. I was in Paris recently and the men are so shy, you have to go to them.
They often travel together; recent trips include a visit to the International Criminal Court in the Netherlands and one to Burma at election time last summer.In Italian we say (roughly translated): “He who begins well is halfway done”. An American girl will show you if she has interest in you, and she won’t be afraid to ask you out. But in Italy, especially for the first date, looks definitely count a lot.