There were no wedding bells dinging in my mind or anything serious, but someone who comes to town and can hold a conversation and is nice and nice to spend time with? But, there were warning bells going off in my head. (I’m not going to get into it because it is all personal, and while I am fine opening up about me, I am not fine with talking about someone else on here and their personal life confided to me.) At the end of the day, I decided it wasn’t a relationship I wanted to be in so I ended it. After doing some inputting, my results were handed to me. So, I decided to take a little swim through Match the other week. It was a whirlwind and soon he was planning to come here to meet me. Sure, there is a drop down menu that lets the user click on “Thailand” but then nothing comes up with the actual listing for cities. I also looked at the expat dating sites on the fabulous inter webs. Apparently, the expat dating sites in Chiang Mai are not utilized by the eligible bachelors my age. It was less annoying than e-Harmony and the quality of men was far better than OKCupid, Plenty of Fish and others. A friend of a friend who was in town for only a short while.
Definitely not literally.” We had a good laugh about it that ended with that heavy sigh on my end. And, of course, the pervs who want me to read their erotica and tell them what I think. I mean, I started getting messages without even so much as small talk telling me they were staying at such-and-such location and did I want to come over because they are good kissers?
The sigh that means, “that’s funny as shit, but dammit, you are so right.” So, with TCZP, I decided I would put myself out there, see what could happen. A brief examination of the dating options in Thailand for western women seeking a western man: Since March, I’ve been fielding requests on OK Cupid for dates.
I used to joke with my married best friend here in Chiang Mai about dating. A lot of them are actually no sexpats who would enjoy spending time with caucasian gal. So there you have it.” [SIC] [SIC] [SIC] of communication before the ask. Tinder, as most of you may know, is basically an App that lets you pick and choose potential “dates” based pretty much entirely on appearance and a super brief description. And, in the not nice terms, it is largely used for people to go and have random sex and meet a suitable match. They stay put, and — joy of joys — they to date a western woman.
Wouldn’t it be great to write an anonymous blog about dating in Thailand as a western woman? That’s when she uttered this gem of a title: “You’re fucked. Never really hard from anyone that thai people would talking like that. Then, there are the ones from somewhere far away, largely from India, that tell me they would like to get to know me better. Of course, the men I meet on Tinder here are in town for a quick jaunt mostly, and either the convo goes downhill quickly or I lose interest and have no desire to take a night off from the gym or my quiet days to go and have conversation with a passerby. I was the one passing through, I held the intrigue and for the first time, guys were messaging me and asking me out, versus just engaging in mundane conversation of “how long you in town? But, even those men living in Europe seemed to only want one thing: sex.
Even though I am perfectly content being single and not in a relationship. BUT, a part of this project is dating and meeting men on different online sites since meeting them here in my free time is pretty much not an option since when I’m not working, I’m working out. Although I specifically state that I am interested more in learning about what men are looking for living here than a relationship, and that the date must be with someone who either lives here or is visiting longer term, it hasn’t stopped people from all over the world messaging me with ridiculousness. Like these “I don’t know what’s worse: You writing about yourself in third person or you writing about being fat although obviously you aren’t.