Oh well, I shouldn’t complain because for the past 4 years I have been working towards this promotion and I guess it comes with the territory.After work I had exactly 30 minutes to drop my car off at the dealership before Pilates class began. ” – Sally Ok, so what we have here on the surface is a seemingly innocuous looking email from Sally to a guy named John.This is extremely impersonal and basically says to John: “Hey, I’m the center of attention here and TMZ and the Paparazzi should be following me around with a t.v.crew and camera to document the most mundane events in my life.” See you at pm on Fox Channel 11 right after the Simpsons !!This email is a clear red flag to John that she might be somewhat self absorbed (perhaps a bit shallow) and atrocious at interpersonal communication skills.When John reads this email, what is he going to think/say?I would consider myself a master linguist and even I would have a hard time responding to that email. She basically treated him as if he was her personal diary.The girl at the rental car place was taking her sweet time and the printer was malfunctioning so by the time I got out of there I was already 15 minutes late to class. In it, she describes her hectic day and how nobody/nothing was on time.
Lately I have been noticing a trend amongst the females in which they are not able to get guys to respond to their emails. She is funny and witty and the exact type of girl that any guy would dream of dating. In the past week and a half, she has emailed about 15 different guys and not one has responded to her request for communication.
For illustration purposes, I am going to use my friend Sally who came to me with the exact same problem last week. I took a look at her personality profile, then took a look at her emails and found the root cause of the problem.