Woman B: I've been deaf since I was about 2 years old.
Now, I have started to refer to myself as deaf because I no longer think it's such a bad thing.
Woman A: I had my first boyfriend at 14, but not a "real" one until I was 21. Woman C: I didn't have an official date until my freshman year of high school.
Woman A: Prior to getting my cochlear implants, it was hard for me to date the guy I was seeing at the time because I couldn't hear him well and he'd get frustrated.
A recent thread on Reddit featured a 20-year-old deaf woman who said she really wanted to have sex, but she was scared to. Woman A: In the past, I liked "hearing impaired" or "hard of hearing." I didn't like to refer to myself as being deaf because to me, being deaf meant I had absolutely no hearing.
She said she worried about how she would sound to the people she had sex with, especially since she'd read a lot of comments online that mocked deaf people having sex. I was legally deaf, but I had a tiny bit of hearing.
In this week's Sex Talk Realness, spoke with three women who are deaf to find out what it's really like to date as someone who is differently abled. Referring to myself as deaf made me feel like all hope for me ever being able to hear was lost.
Since my eardrums still work, I can sense vibrations from noisy things like stereos, megaphones, or shrill whistles if I'm within vicinity, but without my bilateral cochlear implants, my brain is oblivious to sounds.
Woman C: I was born with hearing, but I gradually lost it over time.
I'd also have to try and find a well-lit place so I could see him and read his lips.