He was staying at the girl's house, with the parents permission until 2am sime nights (even school nights). The girl told her mom that they had been making out. The mom told her just not to let her father hear of it again. But the dad called me today and was asking my opinion.
On one hand, we know this 21 year old, and he is harmless as far as wooing the ladies.
If she wasn't dating him, she would be seeing some horn-dog 17 year old who would be trying for the panties on a regular basis.
The dad wonders why he isn't interested in girls his own age...
At the same time, some 21 year olds may just be very immature and ill-developed for their age, and it sounds like that may be the case with this kid.
I have some friends who have a 16 year old daughter. He has also never dated, and had never even kissed a girl. We suspected they liked each other, but they denied it.
The reason this is weird, in my opinion, is because the two are in very different life stages.A 40 year old man and a 35 year old woman are both at about the same place in life, they've been out of their parent's wing for a long time and are both "middle aged." With a 16 year old and a 21 year old, one is still a minor from a legal standpoint.