Can you forgive the other person for their past sexual sin? Before dating or marrying someone who is not a virgin, a lot of discussion, thought, prayer, and reflection should happen.Or maybe you're the one who made a mistake in your past and your virginity is gone.Maybe you're wondering, "Will any Christian still want to marry me?If one person has a hard time forgiving the other person of his or her past, the relationship is definitely going to suffer.Ephesians 2:8-9 says, "By grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, that no one should boast." When we truly understand what it means to be forgiven, we start seeing how much God loves us, and that helps us forgive other people by extending the same kind of grace.Ideally, a Christian relationship or marriage will start with both people as virgins, because in God's eyes, marriage is the only place for sex. You may have been raised in a godly home, got saved at a young age, and you were able to maintain your physical purity as a virgin.
Yet none of us is without sin, so who are we to judge someone else (Ephesians 2:1-5)? Can I forgive completely and totally, from deep in my heart?
Jesus said if we don't forgive, God won't forgive us (Matthew -15).
" It hurts God deeply when we sin, though sexual sins are especially damaging because not only do they hurt God, they also hurt us and those we love (like potential spouses).
Even though God puts our sins as far from us as the east is from the west when we have repented of our sin and put our lives in Christ's hands (Psalm 1), people still have long memories and hold grudges.
That doesn't mean that forgiving others is a way of getting God to forgive us, which we know is by grace alone, but instead it means that a forgiving heart is a sign of the presence of the Holy Spirit working inside a true believer.
Refusal to forgive is a sign of a hard and sinful heart.