An easy way to do this is to focus on just one eye.
I usually just take my right eye and look at her right eye.
It’s the same thing when it comes to an aggressive dog — if you stand firm and look a dog right at his face, the dog will bark, but will not charge you.
The dog will recognize that your frame is stronger than his, and will back down. However if you look away or turn away, the dog will often continue it’s aggression.
This self-monitoring may often show in the form of preening (fixing her hair, touching her face, etc.) Regardless, she will feel like she’s put in an intense spotlight, so bright that she can barely pay attention to what you’re saying.
You notice this a lot when you give women solid eye contact and they utter “what…” followed by a nervous, self-monitoring smile.
The Screening Frame: When you look a woman in the eye while speaking, the woman often feels that you are screening her.
In the game of attraction, one of the critical points that separate the master seducers from the average guy is great eye contact.
It doesn’t matter who you are or how good you are with women, you can reduce blowouts or rejections by having better eye contact skills. , and by looking into them you can see the strength of his spirit. The First Test of Strength: When you meet a woman for the first time, you must maintain steady eye contact.