Whether you are single and getting sober, or recovery is a part of your relationship, here are some tips to help you date smarter and safer. A therapeutic environment is a necessity for learning more functional patterns of behavior and gaining insight into the origins of your disease.In therapy, you will work on assessing readiness, especially for the dating game.If your partner needs support, couples counseling and ALANON meetings are recommended.Oftentimes people in recovery are apprehensive about revealing their sobriety for fear of judgment.
Your sobriety is a part of your life and there is no need to be ashamed of the amazing work you have done to get to this point.
Being upfront, if not preemptive, will help you to reduce the chance of a slip up, avoid risky surroundings for dates and weed out the people who may be uncomfortable with dating someone in recovery.
Facing uncharted dating territory without your usual liquid courage can increase your risk for relapse.
You might make up excuses as to why you aren’t drinking (i.e.
“I’m on an antibiotic” or “I have to get up early for work”), but lies won’t eliminate the possibility of future dates at tempting bars and restaurants.
It is imperative to approach this topic honestly, like you would (hopefully) approach the rest of the relationship.