You could run into the exceedingly religious man who continually waters the sexual philosophy that anything outside of the missionary position is a sin, and anal is definitely and will always be a non-negotiable.I’d bet my next nail appointment money that will respond with the classic, well-known cliché, “Only White girls go there.” We know—hopefully through common sense or with a click on any free porn site—that concept is modern urban mythology at its finest. You yourself may be a big fan of the original “backyard boogie.” You may have absolutely no interest at all, and that’s okay too.And mass media perpetuated the idea that “good girls” or “ladies” don’t engage in (or truly savor) such carnal and lustful behavior.For many of us, there existed more than a few internal walls to scale in order to open up to and enjoy the back-door play experience.If you walk into any packed Black hair salon or Black barbershop on a Saturday and ask “What are your thoughts and feelings about anal sex? You’ll probably find a few sistas whose ambivalence about the subject may bloom from a lack of interest and/or education.
Religiously, some of us were indoctrinated with the idea that anything outside of “vanilla” sex within the boundary of marriage was frowned upon by God Himself.Or are our views of anal sex, and hesitancy around publicly owning its pleasurable aspects, possibly reinforced by rape culture?(After all, we live in a culture where rape and sexual violence are as common as the rain, and our community—and the media—often condones, excuses, and in many cases perpetuates the idea that women need to be taught how to avoid rape instead of teaching men not to rape.) All of these factors and more are at play in varying degrees; they all aid in perpetuating the idea that Black women and men don’t or can’t enjoy this facet of our sexuality.Is the influence of conservative religious ideals on the sexual identity of Black women and Black men responsible for a sometimes-negative outlook on anal sex?
Does the oversaturation of White women and underrepresentation of Black women in the porn industry contribute to this idea that anal sex is more readily engaged in and accepted by White women?
For those looking to get into the backyard boogie for the first time, here are a few tips to get your started.