We were nearly toxic to one another because our love was so potent, until now, December of 2012. Because God's purpose, whatever it was He whispered in my ear as a teenager that I would marry Joel was just coming to fruition.
When the accident happened, just three years prior, we heard all sorts of rumors of what had happened or what people thought occurred. He knew I would need that promise to cling to Him and know that He had us both in His hand.
This was not only our future, but his family's future, as the question of where and how we would live would initially be answered by moving in with his family.
Imposing on someone's life and daily routines is something you consider when you marry your spouse, but not typically an entire family.
I wasn't gaining just a husband, but also entirely different life and routine.
He knew I would need to know that Joel was my purpose.
I even remember telling my friends, who looked at me in disbelief (because no one else went around seriously talking about who God had chosen for them to spend the rest of their lives with at 15 but me -- especially as we were not even together at that point), that "I see Joel the way that God sees Joel -- as a man of God," despite his lackluster drive and motivation in life as he fell into a life of drugs and numbed the pain of his teenage years.
And so after dating a brief two and a half months, Joel and I prepared for an engagement. Certainly Joel could not just on a whim ask me to marry him.
However, when the accident happened most people's faith would have been shaken. There was a reason I knew that I would marry Joel, there was purpose for God sharing that intimate promise with me.
I knew, but I couldn't possibly fathom how to manipulate it to work for my good on my own. For all the times I had tried to control mine and Joel's relationship, it would fall apart.
If I don't do some work to get my knee strong, regardless of what happens with the Olympics, I'm not sure if I'd be able to play one-on-one with my kids in the backyard,' she told The Canberra Times.
When most couples start dating, they are getting to know each other, but not us. We had dated briefly, been friends, lived distant lives, struggled and fought our way back to each other. I had known for nearly nine years he was who God had sent for me to spend my life with, to grow old together and have a family.
Those words never even made sense coming out of my own mouth until much later."But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." Philippians b-14 ESVIt was not an easy process, but we had finally made it. In my darkest hours, I knew that Joel and I would make it, despite what the world said, the doctors predicted, the years apart.I knew that my God had faith in me, that I could live this life. We had to know answers to questions prior to the engagement that most figure out as they prep for marriage.