The unrealistic expectation that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.After being "involved" with a person for a time, and then breakiing up and going through the feelings of remorse or loneliness and unhappiness, and then moving on to the next "relationship" and then another break-up, hard feelings, sadness and then yet another series of dating, hanging out, breaking up and so on." prior to marriage, falling in love, arguing, breaking up and then going through the sad feelings and repeating this over and over, are much more likely to end up in a very rough marriage and very possible divorce.We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the West to understand this point.In most cases, romance and love die out very quickly when couple find themselves with the real world.
That is very important because it is unreasonable for two people to be thrown into marriage and be expected to have a successful marital life, full of love and affection, when they know nothing of each other. This ruling does not contradict the Qur'anic verse that says, “…believing men and women should lower their gaze” (An-Nur: 30).The couple, however, are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone.There is no room in Islam for illicit affairs or the Western vogue-word of boyfriend and girlfriend.All those stories of media and movies are not helpful to make a person comply with the teachings of Islam.
Romance, if not checked, may mean wasting time, effort and dignity. Besides, the concept of love in Islam is very unique, when a Muslim loves something or somebody, it must be for the sake of Allah; the same applies to hatred.
The romantic notions that occupy the mind of young people often have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved.