But apparently, when I was single, I was in a minority of men who could be classified as Casanovas.Says Andrew Smiler, author of “Challenging Casanova”: “Research typically shows about 15 percent of guys have three or more partners in any given 12-month span.And, to be clear, I’ve bought into the conventional wisdom as well.Part of being human means believing that lots of other people are just like you.By contrast, if you look at guys who are very religious, that’s about 15 percent of guys, and most of them really are devoutly religious, really dedicated to their partner.There’s way more of that than guys that are having three partners per year for three years.So while I still very much believe in my edict that “men look for sex and find love,” Smiler echoes my sentiment that even if guys LIKE hooking up, ultimately MOST men are looking for one partner.
2) Smiler’s definition of Casanova depends on men sleeping around for 3 consecutive years.
Well, what if a guy sleeps with ten women in 2010, has a girlfriend thru all of 2011, and sleeps with 20 women in 2012? Thus, if a player ever gets a girlfriend, it negates him from being a Casanova.
1) There would be more men who were “Casanovas” if those men were able to BE Casanovas.
In other words, I think lots of men would like to have sex with more than three women in a calendar year, but don’t have the confidence, wherewithal, opportunity or “game” to be able to do so.
If you follow those guys over time the number of guys who have three or more partners a year for as long as three years, that drops to about 5 percent.
So there are definitely some guys out there who are doing it — but it’s really a small percentage of guys.