After living in South America for over a year, here is my take on being a gringita and the rules of dating in South America. You ask…It is a common phrase used to describe men of Latin America who act like a, ¨Macho man¨ often exhibiting behaviors such as possessiveness, aggressiveness and an overall attitude that they It is a common topic in conversation here and some women have become so accustomed to it, that they accept it as normal.
I have dated a few men who were machisimo and if I had not recognized the signs in the beginning it could have ended very badly. Exhibiting stalker behaviors like showing up at your house without your approval or spreading nasty rumors when you decide that you need some space.
Meaning, your man still lives with his parents and has not trekked outside the confines of his own city or country.
The downfalls are clashes in culture, at times feeling alienated, and missing the customs and comforts of my own city. That is because the ideologies of South American men and woman are very different then the dating principles we are used to back at home.
Gringita: a name often used to describe a woman foreigner/tourist of western or European descent by the people of Latin America. I am asked a thousand times a day, ¨Where are you from? There are perks and there are downfalls living as an ex-patriotic woman in South America.
The perks are obviously engaging in a new culture, experiencing a life completely different from my own and living a life astray from the linear path that I am used to from the United States.