Let's look at how this stage might play out by considering some of the same issues we looked at for the early stage.
Clarity and intentions should be established when things move from "testing the waters" to "yeah, the water's fine." Don't assume that because you agreed to start dating or courting (presumably with the intention to determine whether marriage was the right thing) you (or your partner) will "just know" when things begin to progress. Maybe, but being deliberate and clear about where the relationship is need not suck all the fun, spontaneity and feeling out of the whole affair.
Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 5: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » My last article, "Biblical Dating: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship," sought to apply some of the principles we've discussed in this series to the early stages of a dating relationship.We talked about how to establish intentions for the early stages, appropriate topics of conversation, types of dates and level of emotional investment.In the design of a relationship that we're carving out here, caring well for one another means we can't place too high a premium on being clear. In fact, many women tell me they deeply appreciate such clarity.Guys, again the brunt of the work falls to you here. Let me also reiterate that, like asking someone to date initially, It's just a marker to say things are going well, and as far as you're concerned, the game is changing.
This time, I want to apply some of the same principles we've been thinking about to a relationship that moves beyond the "early stages" and gets serious.
The essential line to walk here is to get to know one another better so that you can make a responsible and informed decision about marriage, but without married in the process and without violating 1 Thessalonians 4's admonition not to defraud and mistreat one another.