One reason BDSM phone sex fantasy play is so popular is that the play is limitless. No pain threshold or risk of doing real damage, so you don’t need to know what you’re doing.
No marks for anyone to hide from family, friends, coworkers. There are as many facets to BDSM as to those who fantasize or practice such activities, resulting in nearly as many websites and books covering (or exposing) them.
So it really doesn’t make any sense for me to try to replicate any of them.
What I can do, however, is try to break down a few points for the practicing PSO (and caller) to consider.
First, a bit of a primer for those not familiar with some of the fundamentals…
The “top” or dominant (in phone sex work, often called the Domme, Fem Dom, or Mistress) is the person in the role that often involves inflicting pain, degradation, humiliation, or subjugation to the “bottom” or submissive (often called the sub or slave, among other things) who submits voluntarily.
Being a “switch” is someone who switches back and forth between top and bottom roles.
Although the top usually is the dominant lead, it is not always so…
Sometimes the dominant “tops” the submissive expressly the way the submissive wishes.