I wasn’t attracted to him because he was younger; I was attracted to him because in my rural Kansas town, he was one of the few guys around who happened to be intelligent, funny and attractive.It was a rare combination in my community and I felt we were capable and mature enough to disregard the two-year age difference—even if other people had more trouble with it.Mariah Carey and Nick Carter (11 years), Anna Nicole Smith and J Howard Marshall (63 years), Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart (22 years), Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones (25 years), Hugh Hefner and Crystal Harris (60 years). My 32-year old friend dated a 19-year old for a year.My best friend from high school married a man eight years older than her. Of course every relationship is about power in some shape or form, but when there is a bigger age gap, so is there a bigger power dynamic at play.There must be consent of both people involved that you do indeed want to have an intimate, healthy relationship with each other.
Throughout our culture we see examples of major age differences in relationships.Now, this doesn’t mean everyone with big age gaps have little in common, just that Couples require having enough in common that a connection can form while still retaining one’s own interests, likes, hobbies etc. It’s getting each other—the quirks, the good traits, the bad traits, the past, the same desired future, regardless of what year either of you were born.