Even after trying to ignore parental pressure and their sometimes unreasonable requirements, many of these qualifications are still ingrained in me and my generation alike.Just like my parents, financial stability and a respectable career are basic prerequisites that seem to unconsciously take precedence over many other traits in younger generations.
I had always understood certain facets of everyday life as norms since most of my peers were like me and grew up in households like mine.
I never attributed tenets as simple as honoring and respecting elders, especially parents, to my ethnic upbringing.
The importance of family, honor, and hard work are reflected in all aspects of life, including romantic relationships and dating.
As a first generation Chinese American, I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, a major hub for multitudes of Asians and Asian Americans.
The Parental Influence Like many Chinese parents, mine only expected the best – the best grades, the best schools, the best jobs, and the best husband who shared those same qualities.
As such, I always feared the chance of disapproval when my love interests deviated from that of dating the ideal Chinese doctor.