In short, it seems that somehow short men aren’t perceived as men.Author and cultural commentator Bel Hooks refers to this fallacious, pumped up version of the real man as the kind of man who can "take action and break the rules." What characteristics do women find attractive in men?Having heard short male clients of mine complain about their jeopardized status in the dating pool, I can speak for at least some of them when I say that short men believe that women see them as less than or deficient, as if models pulled off an assembly line because they don’t measure up to the others.If we conceptualize the dynamic along a continuum of developmental stages, it’s as if women see short men as awkward teens stunted in time, desperate at a school dance and relegated to the side wall.For example, O’Connor and colleagues (2014) discuss how women find men with lower-pitched voices more sexually attractive. Women want taller men more than men want shorter women. I also feel safe emotionally with him because of his kind personality.Specifically, the study found that women were least attracted to smiling, happy men, preferring those who looked proud and powerful or moody and ashamed.This finding supports all those tabloid-esque articles in women’s magazines which suggest that women love the bad boys, and that may be part of the problem: Women just don’t believe short men can be bad boys. He's muscular, strong, was a wrestler in high school, and he's very manly, mature, and stable.
It's true that some women are sexually attracted and open to dating a short man, but a quick poll of your friends—or any group of adults, for that matter—will quickly confirm just how stigmatized short men are in our culture.
For reasons that betray logic, short men get the you-know-which end of the stick and are ostracized when it comes to partner selection. —is also at work in the dynamic of sexual attraction among gay men, I'll focus on women here due to sheer numbers. Not quite, though it does seem that most women feel that short men aren't relationship material.