One caveat: Statistics don't tell how many single moms are with a partner (and choosing not to get married), how many live with family (so they have some help around), and how many are truly alone.But the point is, there are a lot of single moms out there. Even so, single mothers agree that even when overwhelmed, there's usually a way to work out problems.I was a hormonal, heartbroken 28-year-old, and in between work hours spent editing textbooks, I nursed Mae and mashed up baby food. It didn't help that there were no single-mom role models in my life -- except, say, Madonna, who was also parenting solo at the time., I used to think, but I hardly had a superstar's life.After a time, I got back on my feet and ventured out. A lot more single moms than I had ever noticed before. It's an all-time high -- and it's not due to teen moms (teen motherhood is at its lowest rate in 65 years).Births to unmarried women ages 25 to 29 are up 30 percent since 1991; births to unmarried women ages 30 to 44 are up 17 percent.Fortunately, I had a fantastic group of friends who helped.Maybe none of them knew exactly what I was going through, but they babysat and showered Mae with love, which I appreciate to this day. were born outside of marriage, according to the Centers for Disease Control.
get past the fear."You can survive this, or you can lie down and die," is what Christina Ann Zola, of Washington, D.C., told herself when she and her husband split up. with a toddler, four suitcases, and four hundred dollars.They'd moved out of the country and had a baby, and then their marriage fell apart. "My life has been this series of 'oh, that was hard' crises, but I just keep going," Zola says.When my daughter, Mae, was 7 months old, her father and I split up.
He left the country -- without saying goodbye, I might add -- to start a new life.
"You can't let things stop you."One way to calm yourself: take life one step at a time.