The search to reunite with our soul mate is a search for balance.In Yiddish, finding one’s “bashert” means finding your predestined partner, what’s meant to be.
For instance: the chick flick or testosterone-charged action film you see to please your spouse; the obligatory visit to your toxic in-laws; or larger arguments about everything from parenting styles to work schedules to dealing with money that require compromise. Pay attention to intuitive signs that you’ve met someone of interest, even if he or she isn’t “your type.” These are: A sudden wave of chills, a gut feeling of attraction, or a flash of insight that this person may be right for you.You surrender to these compromises in service to the “we” of love. Hold your desires lightly in your heart but don’t push. Also stay aware of intuitions such as a sick feeling in your gut or a sense of distrust that warns, “Danger. Stay away.” These will protect you from unhealthy relationships. Synchronicities are moments of perfect timing when paths effortlessly interconnect.