Men want to be proud of their wife’s appearance, not embarrassed.
Work with what you have: get a makeover; ask a personal shopper at the department store to help you revamp your look.
You will only be happy in your new relationship if you are happy inside first. Rather than living up to some super-model or stereotype of femininity you should aim to be all you can.
Find out what your best feature is and accentuate it. Do not try to be a size 6 if you are really a size 12. He appreciates beauty and quiet, as well as screaming on the roller coaster at the theme park. His humor is never at someone else’s expense, but he can be clever and witty. Right someone who seems to be able to have fun without drugs or alcohol to loosen him up?
If your fellow’s highest aspiration is getting high on ice, you better look elsewhere. If a person always takes himself too seriously, he will be difficult to live with. You don’t want a slob any more than he does, but he doesn’t have to be Mr.
He can relax and participate with others in activities that delight and refresh the soul.
Ask yourself where you want to be in twenty-five years. He is obviously not one-dimensional, that is, he is not all work and no play.
He wants something more than being "baaad" right now. The ability to laugh at oneself and with others (not AT others) is crucial for a good mental outlook.
If you are lazy and self-centered, finding a generous hard working fellow is not going to transform you. Travel abroad and see how fortunate we are in the USA. Some men like a woman with a little meat on her bones, but no one wants a slob. Although he has a gentle manner and is he able to be silly when it is appropriate? No one is going to be everything you have ever dreamed of.
Finding the right man is not going to change you into a better person than you already are. Volunteer and expose yourself to people who are less-fortunate than you are. Accept yourself for who you are, but don’t use that as an excuse to let yourself go either. Can he relax socially and can talk to almost anyone?