Do not lay back, legs wide, arms stretched out (you are not in a pole dancing club! You may be the only man to ask, that makes you memorable.Pick another guy on his own, walk up to him (breathe and smile), and say hello.Most times, you will get a positive response, usually one of relief, since he was feeling awkward.Check out the first three secrets, to stop you getting eliminated in the first few moments. This is as much about the posture as it is about the state of mind. This is about looking more relaxed in a room full of nervous, anxious singles. The thing I love about breathing and smiling, apart from relaxing me, is that it is infectious - yes, your potential date can feel it too.Some secrets will come instantly, but most, I suggest you practice a little beforehand. Fortunately, there is something we can do about it, and looking around the room there is a lot of guys slouching - already you stand out from the crowd (don’t worry, they are all checking you out! In this situation, it is common for us to hold our breath or breathe very shallow. Bring your attention to your belly-button, breath in and your stomach rises, breath out and it falls (like a baby! When you enter the room, avoid looking awkward, or like a lost child.One of the biggest challenges is entering the room - the first impression - and it is massively important. OK, there is an imaginary string coming out the top of your head. You will feel your rib cage rising, stomach coming in, and spine straightening. Congratulations, you just grew 1-2 inches, and, look more commanding!Many pre-judgements and decisions are already made in that moment. Don’t puff out your chest, or push your shoulders back to much - if it feels really uncomfortable, it probably looks that way too. Here’s the difficult part (for us men), keep breathing, ready - and add a smile. there may be a feeling of happiness and lightness when you do this. “I’m not exactly Brad Pit“; “I’m too busy to have a girlfriend”; “I don’t get to meet many women”; “I’m too shy to ask for a date”; or “I don’t have that gift of chatting-up women”. An old Sales Manager said to me years ago, “if they come in the door, they already want it, so make sure they don’t leave ’til they get it”. Warning: This is not a ’get sex quick’ scheme, for that, I suggest you go elsewhere. Before we get into that, a quick check that you have the basics - these are not secrets! Have a shower (a proper one, with soap and everything).
Get rid of that bad breath (yes, you have bad breath). Pay attention to her, and don’t let your eyes wander around the room (too much). I’m not suggesting you be as tough on yourself, as he was on me - but, the fact remains, the women attending a speed dating night, want a date, and most importantly, have an interest in making it happen. So I’m sitting with a women, she wants a date, and it’s my job to make sure she gets what she wants …… Personal grooming, remove those nose and ear hairs.