While some people clearly feel proud to have a hottie on their arm, others are more comfortable having the upper hand in the beauty department.
If you’ve ever had someone look at you during sex with this completely euphoric expression, like, “I ,” you understand that “dating down” in terms of attractiveness can be a confidence boost in its own right.
“Lately, in order to want to sleep with someone, I actually have to them as a person.” He said this as if it were a mind-blowing revelation.
I told him that, at 31, the realization was probably a bit overdue, but I knew what he meant: As one gets older, it becomes harder and harder to be attracted to someone simply because of the way they look.
My friend Millie Brown, a performance artist widely known as the “vomit artist,” has a lot of experience with dating freakishly attractive men.
Millie and I lived together during our early and mid-twenties, and at the time, it felt like every other week she had a new model boyfriend.
Is it because, with age, we care more about a relationship’s potential longevity, rather than just instant sexual gratification?
Or perhaps we become more acutely aware of the impermanence of beauty after experiencing our own signs of aging?
And while I’m drawn to extremely beautiful people, I more often want to just stare at them or hang an oil painting of them on my wall rather than lie on top of them nude.But I’ve also wondered if, deep down, I’m just intimidated by the idea of dating someone hotter than me.